Monday, March 19, 2012

So little information out there!

I've been looking on Google and Amazon for material about sexual abuse in marriage.  There's not much out there!  I realize this is a "not happy" topic for anyone, but I'm wondering if I'm the only one ready to talk about it and get it out in the open.  Surely there are multitudes of women who have suffered this kind of abuse in marriage!  If you're one of them speak up!

Tuesday, March 6, 2012

Sexual Abuse in Marriage

I'm working on an eBook about sexual abuse in marriage.  A lot has been written about sexual assault, recovery, and childhood sexual abuse, and much of this has been helpful to those who have suffered these things.  I haven't found much about sexual abuse within marriage though.  Personally, I experienced it and want to open up this topic so other wives can share their pain and find support.

I'm thinking that many women don't dare share the dark secrets that happen in the bedroom for fear of their partner's reaction.  Fear is a big word in this case-fear of what others will think, fear that I'm just imagining things, fear that it will "blow up" in my face and things will be worse than ever.  There's also the fear of the unknown...if I face this squarely, what will happen? Will my marriage end? Will I be alone?  Will I be pennyless and destitute?  Will my family and friends believe me or will they shun me?

I finally had the courage to stop the madness, about 4 years ago.  I have to say that a few close friends were there for me, and I don't know if I could have done it without their support.  Thank you friends! (You know who you are)!

More to come on this topic.